The religious police will arrest Malays if they are in a hotel room with someone of the opposite sex and are not married to each other
PS I accidentally ended up here just by googling for a local girl band. I also didn’t expect an article like this to exist haha.
I have never been tempted more than from seeing the most incredible looking Malaysian Chinese prostitutes. Someone should make a movie about them, a modern Suzy Wong with better looking women.
But for the Malaysian girls I’ve dated, I have gone out with 2 Malays and four or five Malaysian Chinese (MC).
Malaysia is prosperous, but it spies on its citizens. Do not assume the government is not reading your email, listening to your phone calls, or doesn’t know what websites you are viewing. There is no expectation of privacy. So do not discuss politics. That holds for all Malaysians. The government doesn’t care that you are chatting up three different women, they do care if you say something critical of the government and they might care if you bring porn into the country. And do not even think about drugs, as they will execute you for it.
For Malays, they have a second set of laws that don’t apply to non-Muslims except in Kelantan. How strictly those laws are enforced depends on the state, with Kelantan being the worst. She (and possibly you) can be caned in Kelantan for violating Sharia, as the religious clerics of Kelantan interpret it. As long as you don’t go to Kelantan, you have no fear from the religious police as they have no jurisdiction over you, but she will. Malaysia is a great place otherwise.
She loved sex, wine, and bacon
Chinese owned short time hotels are common, as the owners won’t turn them in. Singapore is another answer to that, where nobody cares. I recommend that if you meet a Malay, that you do it in Singapore where she is free. That was the suggestion of the first Malay girl I dated, and it worked fine. I have heard some dating couples wear fake matching wedding rings, I don’t know how true that is or how well that works, but it is an idea.
The second Malay girl I dated was a grad student in the US. I asked her if her mother (a doctor) knew she wasn’t a virgin, and she said, her mother would kill her if she knew otherwise. I asked if her mother knew she ate bacon, and she said her mother would kill her twice if she knew she did. She had no intention of living in Malaysia ever again.
Neither of these girls is a typical Malay. I have also dated a Singaporean Malay, a nurse, but they are very different than their Malaysian counterparts.
Of the MC girls, one was from Sabah and lived in KL. We met at third country’s airport and she invited me to visit her in KL, so I did, and she was so cute, funny, and horny. She had a car and drove me around too, which is a nice role switch. She ended up marrying a white European man who lives in KL. They look so happy together.
One was in the US, having gotten an H-1B visa after getting her degree in the US, and the rest were MCs working in Singapore. I find that it is a LOT easier to date Malaysians in Singapore than Singaporeans. They are much more open to being approached and easy going. One girl I saw regularly over about a year+ had me come to her flat one time when her mom and sister russianbrides were visiting from Penang. They had clearly been well briefed on our relationship. The mom and sister treated me like we had grown up together, just like family. I probably would have ended up marrying this one if she had not taken a promotion in Auckland.